Sunday, September 27, 2015

Arachnophobia Can Be Crazy

I understand having arachnophobia (I don't have it). Spiders can be creepy and poisonous and nobody wants anything crawling around on them, but there's people whose fear causes them to go crazy when they see a spider, or to let their fear control their actions and then things get out of control and some crazy things happen, man.

A woman JUMPED OUT OF HER CAR, because she found a spider on her shoulder. While she was driving in reverse, and her kid got injured.
"The Kosciusko County Sheriff’s Department is investigating a car crash involving a school bus and a "driverless" vehicle near Syracuse, Indiana, that left a 9-year-old boy injured.
The department says that the boy’s 35-year-old mother, Angela Kipp of Syracuse, had been backing the car out of her driveway on Sept. 18 when she discovered a spider on her shoulder and jumped out of the car while it was in reverse.
According to authorities, the boy climbed into the driver's seat as the car was in reverse and attempted to step on the brake but instead hit the gas, sending the Dodge Avenger into a passing Wawasee Corporation School bus. The boy was found lying outside the Dodge Avenger when police arrived.
The boy was transported to Goshen General Hospital in stable condition with minor head injuries. No children were on the bus, and its driver, Becky Dunithan, 62, of Syracuse, wasn’t injured, police said
Another person accidentally set a gas station on fire because he was using a lighter while pumping gas, in order to try and kill a spider he saw.

"Using a lighter to kill the bug, he started a blaze that quickly engulfed the gas pump.He somehow escaped serious injury and the gas station's damage was contained to one pump, which was destroyed. The incident was recorded at a Center Line gas station.
Employee Susan Adams kept calm and hit the gas automatic stop button and quickly called the Center Line fire department.
The man grabbed a nearby extinguisher and put out the flames before firefighters arrived. Later he admitted what he did, saying he spotted a spider on his gas tank and because he's deathly afraid of the critters.
He pulled out his lighter and decided to burn it. You don't have to be a rocket scientist to figure out what happened next."
Apparently, there was even a mail guy who stopped delivering mail to a single house due to a spider web?
"A spider web — and a skittish mail carrier —prevented a Dartmouth, N.S., man from getting his mail for more than a week.
Kevin Keating noticed his letters had stopped coming after a few days, but received no notice from Canada Post.
"We just thought the mail was being stolen," he said Wednesday.

Keating made multiple phone inquiries about his lack of letters, but it took eight days for him to learn the reason for the stoppage.
A carrier delivered a handwritten note on the back of a letter explaining simply, "Spider webs," followed by the date.
Keating then learned his regular postal worker would not cross the path to his front door because there was a spider web across it." - source
Gotta be honest, letting a spider deter you from doing your job delivering mail to a house is really very irresponsible. And it could fuck with the guys life. I mean, not to get too serious, but you're preventing him from getting his bills or some other important piece of mail. Just brush it away with a stick or something, man.

 For more insane stories of the chaos spiders have caused, you should check out this Cracked Article

Seriously, the lengths people will go to avoid spiders or kill them, or the mishaps spiders can cause is just so crazy. 

Wednesday, September 9, 2015

Kim Davis

I don't believe in God, but I can totally see why there's tons of people who do. He can bring comfort to people. He can be a source of hope and guidance. Maybe he's the only light you have when you're surrounded by darkness.
Everyone has different reasons to believe in him. People should have every right to believe in whatever they want so long as they're not hurting anybody.

I don't know about you, but if I did believe in a God, he would be someone who accepts everyone so long as they're a good person. I feel like most of the christians who use God as an excuse to hurt others or discriminate against others don't really get that God is supposed to be this source of love and acceptance and guidance. Which brings me to Kim Davis:

She has been all over the place online and on tv for the simple reason of: she refuses to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples despite gay marriage being legal in America, and despite being ordered to do so. Like, this woman is literally refusing to do her job correctly because of whatever God she's got going on in her mind.
I'm all for freedom of religion, again, so long as it isn't hurting anyone, but I'm also for separation of church and state. You are at work, and that means that you should do your job even if there's something about it that you do not enjoy (unless it actually is detrimental to your health in some way) such as issuing a marriage license to a same-sex couple. If you are not doing your job properly or as you should be doing it, you should be replaced by someone who will.

I'm actually going to say that I agree with her being in jail. Not because I hate her, though she does seem like a bad person, and not because of her religion (like, what's his name, Mike Huckabee? is actually saying she was jailed for being christian as if there wasn't even the slightest possibility that she was doing something wrong) but because she was literally federally court ordered to do her job correctly as she is supposed to do and she just out-right refused and continued as she was, and now she and a lawyer are trying to pursue potential charges of misconduct against her.
It isn't misconduct if she was COURT-ORDERED to do something and then was arrested for not doing that thing that she was ordered to do. That's contempt of court, and it's illegal.

You know who else acts in a discriminatory and hateful manner in the name of God? The Westboro Baptist Church. I bet she'd fit right in there, maybe she could join. Though I doubt it because apparently not even the Westboro Baptist Church supports her, because of her past with adultery and the fact that she had kids out of wedlock. I mean, the woman has a complicated past when it comes to marriage:

Chart by: Queerty

Saturday, September 5, 2015

Killing Comedy?

Not all humor is offensive. I love jokes. I think lots of things are funny. My favorite show is Whose Line Is It Anyway (which can be used as a great example of the kind of comedy that is funny without making you look like a shithead)

Sometimes though, there are assholes who like to just say whatever they want with complete disregard for anybody else and then laugh and call it "comedy" as a way to try and justify what they said and did. It's like how a schoolyard bully might push and shove someone or maybe even go so far as to tell someone they should kill themselves or that they hope that person gets raped and then they turn around and say "I was just joking, it's their fault if they took it seriously" because they got in trouble for what they said then turn around and say the people who got upset over it are "killing comedy". Comedy is not a word you can just throw on anything you say and then it instantly becomes excusable and/or justified.
Sometimes you're just plain in the wrong for what you said, joke or not. And sometimes, you're just not funny.
I know of at least two "comedians" on YouTube who do this: Nicole Arbour and Onision. (The former of which got her YouTube account "removed" because of a shit video called "Dear Fat People" she made and now she's crying about getting "#Censored" as a comedian. Like, no, you didn't get censored for your "comedy", you got censored for your bullshit. I mean, if you even got "censored" in the first place.)

Look, I get it, sometimes people bitch and get all up-in-arms over nothing and it's perfectly fine to just dismiss them, but rape jokes, race jokes, sexist jokes, fat jokes, jokes about mental illness and cutting, those are things that can actually hurt people or trigger them. There's so many people who go through ridiculously awful times because of rape or racism or sexism or because they're fat or because of a mental illness and to have a "comedian" sit there and make jokes at the expense of what someone might've gone through and then blame the person who is offended for getting upset about it is just bullshit.

Plus, those things are serious topics and making jokes about them instead of trying to bring awareness and make a change in the world and in people's lives really just makes it worse for the people who suffer because of those things because it causes people to think less of what someone might be going through, or it makes a rapist think what they did is acceptable because people aren't getting mad about it, they're making jokes about it. It's not okay to make a joke at the expense of another person, unless they're all for it and are in on it, and then act like they're in the wrong if they don't laugh and think it's funny.
It teaches the young impressionable fans of the "comedians" who tell these kind of jokes that it's okay to not take these things as seriously or that what they might be dealing with is somehow a joke and it's okay to make fun of it even if it hurts the person suffering.

There are many ways to be funny without being a prick, maybe instead of saying people are "killing comedy" or whatever you consider to be "comedy", you could take a hint and try out some new material.

"Dear Fat People" -- A Response

This post is geared as a response towards Nicole Arbour's "Dear Fat People" video, but it's also geared towards people who think that if you're fat, you're automatically less than, or you're automatically unhealthy.

Is being fat unhealthy?: NO.
Can being fat or obese cause health problems?: Yes, but unless you are genuinely concerned about the person with the health issues, keep your shitty comments to yourself about their appearance and health, or, if you genuinely cared in the first place, your voice of concern probably wouldn't be coming from a place of ignorance or sound hateful and rude.

Who are you to judge what is or is not healthy for a person to be? ANYONE can have health problems. It's just so ridiculous to me that someone could see a bigger individual walking down the street or see them online and just assume that because they're fat, they're unhealthy and they're eating too much. Or that it's somehow okay to poke fun at them and treat them like shit like they don't have feelings or something because they're fat. Like, if you don't know them at all or what they've been through or deal with, why are you even paying attention to them in the first place or assuming things about their life?
Being fat does not mean you have health issues. I've known people who are fat who are 100% healthy.
If you know someone who is fat and it actually is affecting their health in a negative way, you should sit them down and voice your concerns honestly but don't be an asshole about it because hey, you can be honest without being an asshole.

If you really want to make jokes about obesity, that's fine, just don't do it at the expense of another human being unless they're 100% on board with it or you know it's a friend who will be just fine with it (I guess this could be said for any joke, but I still think there are some things that you should just not make a joke out of), but the joke about the people at the airport who smelled like sausages, and the kid you had to sit next to on the plane? That's just rude, and if affected a real person:

The fact that anyone would act like that towards a child for any reason is just atrocious. Especially if it's a child that you don't even know. That could really fuck a kid up.

People can be born naturally big, and their bone structure can be a reason for that. Maybe they have a disease that caused them to gain weight and makes it ridiculously hard for them to lose it. There are people who are fat that have tried everything to lose weight and it just isn't working, or they lost weight but had a hard time keeping it off. Maybe they're too busy to focus on losing the weight. Human bodies are complex and what works for you and improves your health and improves your life could damage someone else and their life.
Shaming a fat person with the hopes that it will motivate them to lose weight is the wrong way to go. Sure, it might help some people and if it does that's great, but it's a punch to the face for so many others. It's just plain stupid to be an asshole to someone for any reason and then wrap it up with "I'm just saying this stuff because I'm concerned and selfish, and I want you to be around forever" or call it "comedy" and act like that's somehow supposed to make it okay, or to act like those of which got upset by your words are somehow "killing comedy".
If someone is perfectly happy being fat or they think they're beautiful and love themselves regardless of their size, that's their prerogative. It's called a self esteem and you have no right to tear theirs down just because you think that what they are is the wrong thing to be.
Confidence is not "they will like me", it's "I'll be fine if they don't."

They're not there to please you. And they're not there to be a joke for you to laugh at. If they lose weight or aspire to lose weight, it should be because it's what they want, not because it's what they felt pressured to do.
So many people take the stress and sadness building up in them because they're fat and because they get shit for it and it turns into an eating disorder. They start to obsess over their appearance, their food intake and soon they're throwing up into a toilet after every meal just to have the appearance that you would see and think "now there's a healthy person" until they take it too far and soon you're saying "wow, you look a little frail there, maybe you should get some meat on your bones".
Or, they start to eat MORE as a coping mechanism because it brings them comfort and then they wind up developing an eating addiction.
Sure, fat people can have health issues, but more often than not, the people who shame them and make them feel like a lesser being for their weight are the ones giving those health issues to them.

Here are a couple of videos from Youtuber Trisha Paytas that I agree with:

If you have not had the same struggles as someone else has, you should not act like what they are going through is invalid and is easy to just get past. It's like when people tell those of which that have depression that they should just "cheer up". It doesn't work like that.