Friday, January 25, 2013

Some people really think they're vampires? (A story)

One of my best friends had this boyfriend (Chris) a while back, who I'll give you a bit more detail on in a second, who thinks he is a vampire.

Ok, so my friend and I talk to this small group of people and whatnot and he used to be a part of that and after a while he started developing feelings for my friend, which isn't much of a problem until you realize he had a girlfriend (Christina) while this was happening. I mean, not that that stopped him from cheating a couple times before trying to be with my friend but still. 
Soon enough he was no longer part of the group because prior to being interested in Meg (my friend) he had this 'fling' with another friend that I no longer have contact with because she soon quit talking to the group after this occured. They sexted or something, idk, and I guess he thought he had feelings for her and she did something to betray him so after that he had his heart set on destroying her because of what she did and I don't really know what happened, and if I  ever did I have since forgotten, but my friend David and I got tired of all his drama and we wouldn't go along with it, or take his side over hers so he got all pissy with us and left the group, eventually saying that we forced him out of it.
He always acted like such a victim and was so full of himself, it was ridiculous.

We hung out in the virtual world on gaia and there's this area in the 'virtual hollywood' that looks like a bar, and people would mess around and act 'drunk' or go to the virtual counter and 'order a drink' and he would judge them. He'd shit on anybody who liked twilight or had their avatar dressed a certain way and he would just stroke his own ego and act like they were so far below him. Lol, like, a few days after he fucking graduated high school he was already acting like he was so much better than high schoolers. 

But anyway, back to my friend. She was dating this french guy, who was emotionally manipulative because of his own shitty insecurities and was horrible for her, I, personally, did not ever like him. He talked to our friends and whatever but I never liked him. He's a douchebag, and Chris would try to get her to dump him so he could swoop in and steal her away, while still being with his girlfriend. After a while he had convinced himself that his feelings for Meg were so strong that before she even thought she liked him, he dumped his girlfriend and went to her. He fed her compliments, treated her like a princess and spoiled her with affection in order to manipulate her into thinking that she, too, loved him, and it worked, which is unfortunate that she fell into his trap. 
And while this was all going on, his ex was still very much into him, obsessing in the forums over why he would do this and why Meg would make him leave her, and after a while she just got fed up and decided to try to move on and despite the fact that he left her he loved that she was still so into him because it made him feel like he was important. He still had his grasp on her and the second she started to move on, he couldn't have that. Despite him saying that he loved Meg more than anyone he's ever loved before, he decided he needed his ex back.

He hated us, her friends, because we would tell her he's not good for her, that he's manipulating her and that she is going to get hurt. He's a psycho, he has too many emotional and mental problems, and that he really shouldn't be dating anyone right now, but he fought our word, and tried to convince her that we were just trying to control her and make him look bad.
There was a period where Meg broke it off briefly deciding she needed a small amount of time to think (because even though they were together he thought about and talked about his ex constantly and she would tell me she was getting tired of it and that she would mention this to him but he just would not stop. Literally he was obsessed with his ex girlfriend.) and he freaked out, fleeing to his ex for comfort and Meg found out at a later date that he had apparently had sex with her the night this all happened and that they were having sex or something throughout the period of time that Meg and him had dated. 

I worked with her on trying to finally remove him from her life, because he was so bad for her emotionally, mentally, physically. He made her feel like she NEEDED him to survive and when they were going through all this shit she tried to kill herself several times and felt like her world was absolutely over when he finally decided that he NEEDED his ex back after she was trying to move on. He wanted to prove to his ex that he was a better person and he would say all these psychotic things about how he'd hurt her if she didn't comply with his wants or needs or whatever it was. 

Now, here's the point of the title of the post, he thought he was a vampire, he had told Meg he was a vampire and that he knew a whole bunch of vampire and they had their own forum where they'd talk to each other and whatnot, and they bashed people who were HUGE fans of twilight and would pretend they, too, were vampires.
First of all, no. You can claim you're a vampire all you want, who the fuck gives a shit but the second you start riding someone's dick because of what they choose to believe, you're a hypocrite and oh man, he was a BIG hypocrite. He made fun of so many people who thought they were vampires because of twilight, and he wouldn't talk about being a vampire to us because he was afraid of being made fun of, or being judged. How fucking hypocritical. If you don't want to be treated like shit for what you supposedly are, why would you treat someone like shit for what they think they are? Douchebag.

The best part was that he 'drank blood' and that's where his ex comes in to play. She would allow him to drink her blood and it would either be that he bit her neck or some old-school vampire movie bullshit, or he drank her period blood. I have reason to believe it was her period blood. ._.

I was recently reminded of all of this a couple days ago because of a guy on OkCupid mentioning in his profile that he is a 'vampire', and I played with the idea of posting this in my mind for a while before actually doing it because I have forgotten some of the details since it's been quite a while since this all went down, but I finally decided to post it because I figured he could pose as a good idea of the kind of people you should avoid online.

http://www.gaiaonline.com/journal/?mode=view&post_id=34384101&u=9055528

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Girl Eats Tampon

Ok, I'm going to embed the video here so if you don't want to see it, don't watch it. (I apologize if the video starts on its own, just pause it, you'll be fine)




Kids and school

I want children, I really do. If and when I ever do have a child, one thing that will require quite a bit of thinking about is whether or not I will homeschool them, or send them to a school.
I hate school. It's not a case of 'oh, school sucked boo hoo'. No. It's a case of school, private, public, what-have-you, can be damaging emotionally, mentally, physically, or even sexually.

Now, I was bullied quite a bit, and as a result, I am emotionally unstable and have clinical depression, both of which I need to work on greatly. I do not EVER want that to happen to my child.

Emotionally:
Kids are bullied every fucking day. Is that a problem? Fuck yes, one that isn't getting solved in the slightest. Kids get picked on for things that are either entirely out of their control, or for what they/'re wearing, how they choose to do make-up or do their hair. In my case, some of my bullying was caused by the fact that I'm related to my brother, which may not have been his fault, but because of it I resent him.
Emotional damage is not something to take lightly because it could lead to mental and physical abuse that is self-inflicted. It could lead to suicide.
Do you even realize how many excuses parents come up with to get their shitty kid out of trouble after the kid bullied someone? I get it, ok. No parent wants to believe their kid is the problem, so they try to place the blame on someone else. But there is no excuse for the way you're influencing your child. The more you save him/her from shit like that, you're basically showing them that no matter what they do you will try really hard to bail them out despite the pain they've caused other people. How can you not see how shitty that is? You want to protect your kid, right? What about the parents who couldn't protect their kids because of yours?
A girl was getting harassed by boys in her school because of her breast size and the fucking school told her to get a breast reduction. How can that possibly be ok?

Mentally:
Mental and emotional damage walk hand in hand because they're connected. Sometimes mental damage becomes more severe though, and this can create a psychopath or a serial killer or mass murderer. Someone who causes the school shootings that are happening erratically these days.
I was watching Dr. Phil last night and it was about how this guy goes into the school, the little girl doesn't know him/recognize him, and he had fucking taken the time to learn her name, and whatnot and goes in there and signs her out and takes her. The ONLY reason she went with him at all, is because he lied and said her mother was outside waiting for them. She refuses to talk about what happened within the 5 hours he had her before police found them. 
That's not the only fucking time someone has kidnapped that way, either. It's fucking appalling. If I ever did send my kid to ANY school, I'd give them explicit instructions on what to do if someone of my kid doesn't recognize comes to pick them up. 
  1. Ask my child if they know/recognize the person
  2. Whether they do or do not, ask the stranger for an I.D
  3. If they don't give you one, or even if they do, I demand a fucking phone call asking me if that person is there with my permission.
It is so irresponsible that a lot of schools don't take precaution for that. Do you fucking realize how traumatizing that is for a kid to go through?

This is Nailla Robinson. Nailla stands about 40 inches tall and weighs around 35 pounds. She has a medium skin tone, brown eyes and black curly hair.

A woman entered the school and told school officials her name was “Tiffany,” and that she needed to take her daughter to breakfast. The woman then allegedly signed Nailla out of the office and took her away at approximately 8:50 AM on January 14, 2013. The woman was dressed in a traditional Muslim over-garment and Niqab. She has her face covered and only her eyes showing. She’s wearing gloves. She’s wearing all black. She has something white on her arm and she has a long black umbrella. The surveillance camera shows them walking through the hallway to get to the door. The next camera picks up and she’s putting her umbrella up.

This may not seem like a problem, but hey, that wasn't her mother that took her. This little girl was abducted from a west Philadelphia school. Luckily, she was found safe in Delaware County.

"An Amber Alert was issued Monday night about 12 hours after Philadelphia Police say a kindergartner went missing after being abducted from her Cobbs Creek school.
Police say the 5-year-old went missing around 8:50 a.m. from the Cullen Bryant Elementary School on 60th and Cedar Avenue.
"Where is she, where could she be?" begged the girl's tearful mother Latifah Abdur-Rashid.
The victim, a kindergartner at the school, was allegedly taken by a woman who claimed to be her mother. Police also say people didn't realize the girl was missing until almost six hours later.
She stands about 40 inches tall and weighs around 35 pounds. She has a medium skin tone, brown eyes and black curly hair, according to investigators.
The family just moved to the area so the girl doesn't know her address or phone number, her mother said.
Her family told NBC10's Denise Nakano that a woman, believed to be about 8-months pregnant, was spotted on surveillance video telling school officials her name was "Tiffany," and that she needed to take her daughter to breakfast. The woman then allegedly signed the little girl out of the office and took her away.
"She’s a beautiful little girl, happy go lucky, not a care in the world," said Abdur-Rashid. "For someone to take her like that is really horrendous."
Her mother was in tears as she told NBC10 about finding out her daughter was missing.
"My daycare called me," said Abdur-Rashid. "(They) pick my child up, her and my son, and walked them to the daycare from the school around 3 o'clock. They asked me if Nailla had an early dismissal today. And, of course I said, 'no, she didn't.' She asked me about a woman named Tiffany and I immediately thought about my brother's friend. I called her and she was like, 'no, I'm in school. I didn't take [her].'"Police+released+this+surveillance+image+of+the+abduction+of+Nailla+Robinson%2C+5%2C+from+the+Cullen+Bryant+Elementary+School+on+60th+and+Cedar+Avenue+on+Jan.+14%2C+2013.
Abdur-Rashid says there was confusion when she came to the school asking questions.
"I come straight to the school and they're all discombobulated. The substitute teacher, they're trying to get him on the phone. He finally gets here and he's like, 'her mom picked her up from school early. She said she was taking her to breakfast. I asked her to sign out but she said she already signed out at the office.'"
Abdur-Rashid also says the woman who abducted her daughter was dressed in traditional Muslim clothing -- something verified by police and surveillance video.
"In the surveillance camera that the school has that I watched, she's dressed in traditional over-garment and Niqab," said Abdur-Rashid. "She has her face covered and only her eyes showing. She's wearing gloves. She's wearing all black. She has something white on her arm and she has a long black umbrella. The surveillance camera shows them walking through the hallway to get to the door. The next camera picks up and she's putting her umbrella up. Then they disappear."
The victim, who had on a light-colored coat and pink backpack, and the woman were last seen walking along Cedar Avenue.
The Philadelphia School District confirmed Abdur-Rashid's story and told NBC10 the following: 
Around 8:45 a.m. this morning a woman showed up at the school and was allowed to visit the child in the classroom, which is against protocol. The woman claimed to be the mother and took the child from the school. When the real mother showed up at 2:45 p.m., that is when they realized that the child was missing. There is surveillance video that shows the woman and child leaving. That is being handed over to Philadelphia Police.
An Amber Alert was issued around 8:30 p.m. A $10,000 reward is offered for information in this case.
The girl's mother just wants her daughter home safe.
"Please, please take my baby anywhere that she can be picked up," said Abdur-Rashid. "I don’t know what else to say... don’t hurt my baby.""
Fortunately, she was found over-night and brought back safe and sound. I can not imagine what I'd do if that happened to my child. I can't imagine how all the parents who have had to go through this or just abductions in general have felt. The fact that this seems just so easy is horrifying. That could probably happen to anyone's child if the school they're attending doesn't take the right precautions in making sure that the person trying to sign out said child isn't lying about who they are. 
And you wouldn't even know everything that happens between the child and the abductor unless the child tells you. And that's if they don't repress what happened and refuse to talk about it. This is serious stuff and I gotta say, at this point I'm pretty cynical when it comes to trusting schools.
Physically: 
One time in gym, kids were playing basketball and decided they'd try to throw the balls at my head to see who could actually hit me. This dumb cunt actually does hit me and as I'm walking to the nurse, crying, she's laughing and bragging to her moronic friends.
This other girl and several of her friends would throw random shit at me. This science teacher I had 'jokingly' hit me in the ribs while she was walking by and it actually did hurt. This shit isn't funny, if you do that, you're a piece of shit. It's one thing to hate someone or even just dis-like them, but it's another thing entirely to take it too far to the point where you physically hurting them for whatever reason. That's just pathetic. 
Kids in all kinds of school all over the world get attacked by kids who are picking on them, or have things thrown at them, or have people hit them. It's horrible and traumatizing and they should not have to go through that. 
Sexually:
This is a huge problem. Lots of kids or even teens get manipulated by teachers and then touched inappropriately or worse. The teachers threaten to fail them or possibly worse if they don't comply and keep their mouths shut. By the time most parents learn of this, it's too late. Or maybe they'll never learn about if it their child takes their own life.
What the actual fuck is wrong with people?

A football coach at a high school or college is trying his fucking hardest to get his players out of trouble after they RAPED AN INTOXICATED GIRL MULTIPLE TIMES IN  ONE NIGHT. 
This country loves football more than its own daughters
I want you all to think long and hard about that.
This brings up another point. Teachers can just be abusive in general. They take up teaching thinking it'll be easy. They have power over the kids they teach and thus, they take advantage of it, insulting the kids, provoking them, teasing them, just bullying them.

"When Stuart Chaifetz learned that his 10-year-old son, Akian, was being violent and disruptive in class, he was puzzled. He knew Akian, who has autism, to be mild-mannered and sensitive, and had a hunch that something more was going on. But after several meetings with a team of school officials created to help special-needs students, nothing changed. So Chaifetz did what any concerned parent would do.
On the morning of Friday, February 17, 2012, I wired my son and sent him to school. That night, when I listened to the audio my life changed forever. I heard my son being bullied by his teacher and aide. The six and a half hours of audio I had proved that my son wasn’t hitting the teacher because there was something wrong with him — he was lashing out because he was being mocked, mistreated and humiliated. His outbursts were his way of expressing that he was being emotionally hurt at school.
The New Jersey father has since launched a website full of damning evidence and a Facebook page, and he is petitioning the state to change legislation so that teachers who bully children are immediately fired. The aide has been fired, but the rest of the staff have merely been relocated.
“I seek a full and public apology from all those adults who were in my son’s class for what they did to him,” Chaifetz says. “It is also far past time that these issues are allowed to be hidden from public view.”"


Sometimes, kids even bully the teachers, or the teaching Aids:


Parents should have serious talks with their kids about their behavior, and if your kid is lying about whether or not they bully someone, don't give in and give them the benefit of the doubt or they'll always do that in order to get away with it. Teachers should be evaluated to make sure they're emotionally/mentally stable enough to be working around kids, and schools need to make sure they're not taking the job just because they think it's easy and because they want to control people.
If you feel like your child is having trouble at school, sit them down and talk to them and let them know you're there. I cannot tell you how alone I felt growing up, thinking the world hated me because kids I went to school with made me feel worthless. When I was 10 years old I decided I wanted to kill myself because I felt like the world would benefit from it. No 10 year old should EVER have to feel like that. Nobody of any age should EVER have to feel like that.
Everyone needs someone sometimes.

And now, various things people on tumblr have said about school!:
"I don’t hate school because “i’m a teenager” no i hate it because who the fuck wants to wake up at 6 in the morning and go to a place where all you feel is stupid and judged. yeah no one ok"
"Things school has taught me:
• Grades are more important than your morals,emotional & physical health
• How to hate people in general
• To want to quit life weekly
• How to text/eat in class without getting caught
• Why I will never amount to anything"

"The problem with school is that it’s forced.
I’m thirsty for knowledge when I have the freedom to seek it myself." 
"what i've learned on tumblr: Self defense techniques, art appreciation, dealing with basic life situations, politics, the economy, biology facts, to be open-minded and accepting of everyone no matter the shape, form, gender, race, sexuality, religion, social status, SPECIES. the difference between grey and gray, the effect one simple little word can have on people both good or bad, how to deal with depression, anxiety and suicidal feelings, some of the different theories of our existence, WHAT TO DO IF I GET BURIED ALIVE
what i've learned in school: using a calculator to find a side of a triangle"

 "Male privilege is oversexualizing a normal part of a woman’s body to the point where she is punished for wearing a pair of shorts at school. They are legs and they get me where I need to go. I don’t “display” them for your enjoyment, I just made a mistake by assuming that partially exposing an appropriate part of my body on an 80 degree day wouldn’t land me in detention."

"the fact that i have to choose between my grades and my own mental and physical health is really fucked up"
That's something that bothers me, that if you miss a certain amount of school days you have to stay back and shit. What the actual hell? My life should not have to be scheduled around school, especially because people's immune systems and getting sick don't work like that. I don't know about your school, but that's how it was at mine and that's fucking horrible. Someone could literally feel way to sick to do jack shit but if they already missed a certain amount of school they just have to suffer and go anyway. Fuck that.
 'im stressed because i don’t want to be a nurse or a teacher or a lawyer i just want to read books and listen to music and travel and drink coffee but there’s so much pressure to become successful in terms of money and my career and i don’t want to do any of that'
May not look like it, but that's pretty relevant.
"Tumblr has taught me more about feminism, women rights, rape culture, slut shaming, etc, more than school ever had. And there is something wrong with that."
school: make time for your interests and hobbies!
school: oh btw we're going to keep you here for about 6 1/2 hours. and after that, we're going to give you hours of homework.
school: eat 3 meals a day!
school: you don't have time for breakfast if you want to get here on time, though. and here's lunch, it's cardboard.
school: school is free!
school: oh, but you have to pay for any ap classes, textbooks, folders, supplies, and materials for projects :)
school: you earn the grades you get!
school: what do you mean this teacher gives you bad grades because they don't like you? that's ridiculous!
school: respect your teachers.
school: oh, but they don't have to respect you. even if you don't know the answer they can still call you out in front of the whole class. and don't forget, if you correct them, we'll lower your grade.
school: everyone is an individual!
school: here's a standardized test to figure out how smart you all are.
school: balance your social life and academics.
school: but you also have to do homework and study for the rest of the day.
school: we accept all love!
school: stop kissing and hugging eachother. that's gross.
school: bullying is bad!
school: but our teachers won't help you if you don't say anything.
school: it's okay to be out sick.
school: but the teacher won't explain it to you if you were. that's /your/ fault that you were sick.
school: act like adults.
school: but we're going to treat you like children. 

It bothers me that the intelligence of animals is measured by how willing they are to obey the commands of a human.
same goes for students at schools... there is a difference between people who are smart and people who get good grades

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Catfish / Online Dating Websites / Pushy People

First and foremost; dating sites. I didn't join to find dates, or find my 'soulmate' I joined, actually, out of curiosity. My friend had joined and she was talking about it (OkCupid) and so I decided to join and see what it was like, see what kind of people were on there, and so on and so forth. Call it a social experiment if you will.

You would not fucking believe how pushy people are to either meet you or add you on as many things as possible so they can increase their chances of talking to you. Which may not seem like much, but for me it's a bit much. I'm a little hesitant when it comes to adding people on things because, well, they're fucking strangers. I'm not comfortable with them at this point, and I know shit all about them so it's like, slow your god damn roll, y'know?
I mean, we can message each other on OkC, it's not a big deal. I had this one guy say I was so gorgeous and that he would be 'honored' to find out if my personality was as beautiful as my face, so he became so insistent on trying to get me to download an app on my iPod Touch that I could text him with (Because I don't own a cell phone and have no interest at the moment in getting one) or adding him on skype or facebook. I really don't see how adding me or talking to me on these things will help you get to know me? Am I missing something? We could just as easily get to know each other via message on OkC, but no. After telling him I'd rather just talk to him on there, I never heard back from him. I mean, if you're going to be pushy about doing things your way and not respecting my boundaries then you're probably not as interested in getting to know me as you claim, right?
You would not believe how pushy some people are about skype chatting. Like, this guy I was talking to for about the past 4 days or so was always trying to coerce me into talking on skype. Seeing as I barely knew him, it wasn't something I was comfortable with, so I insisted we just keep talking on there for now and even then I was hesitant to even do that because he was coming on rather strong and after asking for what I looked for in my ideal match, he goes "Wow, I'm all those things! Talk about the perfect match!"
How am I supposed to respond to that?

Once, I had this guy from new york try pushing me into meeting him in person. Seriously? I had to start ignoring his messages to get him to stop talking to me because it was so obnoxious.
Back to the skype guy for a second though. He was asking how I could get him to trust me, and so I told him that he could tell me anything he wants about himself but that still doesn't mean he'd earn my trust. I even asked him in the same message if he had ever seen the show Catfish (which, of course he hadn't.)

Catfish, for those of which don't know, is a show about this guy Nev and his friend Max and their crew going  around the country helping people who are in online relationships with people they have never met or skyped with, and they're having doubts about who the person is and would like help finding out. So Nev and Max set out to help them, dig up info on the person they're investigating and report back to the person they're helping with all the information they acquired through their investigation, eventually setting up a meeting with the person and their online lover, which, most of the time, reveals the person they were involved with to be someone either completely different, or someone who just lied about what they looked like. There's many different reasons for people to do this stuff, or why they felt like they couldn't come out with the truth sooner, and it's just fascinating, to me.

I would never catfish someone or lie to them about who I am because I just don't see the point in that. I've been in 2 online relationships before and thankfully they weren't catfishes, which I know because I skyped with them quite a bit, and still do when I get the chance.
It boggles my mind that people could lead someone on like that and then feel no remorse for it. That they don't care that they fucked with the other persons mind and emotions and manipulated them. Obviously that's not the case for everyone. Some people lied about their face and body and looks in general because they have self-esteem issues or they were afraid the person they were interested in wouldn't like them if they saw their real face, things like that. Which, I guess, is understandable. Flirting is ok, for the most part, but if you're lying to someone about who you are and you start to develop a fucking relationship with them, continuing a lie will probably not benefit you. They'd probably appreciate the truth. I know I would. Don't let it get as far as a lot of people take it.

I'll be honest, I've had fake profiles, but I've only made them with friends as a joke and the only people I contacted with them were said friends. Even if I did contact a stranger with a fake profile, I don't have the energy it would require to try and start some weird relationship with someone or lead them on.

Here's a couple Tumblrs filled with 'nice guys' and absolute pieces of shit that are on OkCupid.com:
  1. http://okcgoldmine.tumblr.com/
  2. http://okcsucks.tumblr.com/
  3. http://creepsandbigotsondatingsites.tumblr.com/
  4. http://notsoniceguys.tumblr.com/
  5. http://www.tumblr.com/tagged/okcupid
Here's a tip: Don't be like these people. And if you are those people, knock it off.

Monday, January 7, 2013

Justin Bieber smokes weed, fans cut. Wtf?

So, apparently, the Biebs has started to smoke pot, which fine, whatever, his life. He's not hurting anybody.
Except maybe his fans, through no fault of his own.

Are you serious? Apparently his fans have begun cutting themselves over this supposed travesty that is JB the pot smoker. If this is true, I honestly have no words. How can these girls be so stupid?

Sure, not all of his fans are absolute dipshits, but so many of them are.
They over-react when people don't like him, SOME OF THEM ACTUALLY FUCKING THREATENED SELENAS LIFE FOR BEING WITH HIM. Anyone remember the rumor that he had cancer, and then they shaved all their hair off for him without even trying to fucking find out if it's actually true or not. I mean, really?
What if he's not smoking pot and it's just another rumor?

Either way they're just being complete morons. You can want him to not smoke pot all you want, but it's his life and it honestly isn't effecting you in the slightest. Cutting yourself to try to get him to stop is not only a risk to your life, but it's emotional manipulation. You're like those psycho girlfriends who threaten their lives in order to get their boyfriend to stay with them or do what they want.
What the fuck is going to happen when one of these girls cuts without having any idea as to what she's doing and winds up killing herself? Cutting is a serious thing and someone smoking weed is absolutely no reason to start doing it.

What the fuck is he supposed to do about this shit? His fan are going to ruin his life one day. Again, not all of them, but the psychotic ones will. They take stuff from his personal life, make it their business and over-react about it whether it be that he has a girlfriend or that he's fucking smoking pot. It's like he's not allowed to live the way he wants to because they just insist on trying to have a say in how he lives.


I seriously hope the parents of these rabid fan-girls are going to do something about the shit they're willing to do for this guy because he's not worth it and they need to stop