Thursday, January 24, 2013

Kids and school

I want children, I really do. If and when I ever do have a child, one thing that will require quite a bit of thinking about is whether or not I will homeschool them, or send them to a school.
I hate school. It's not a case of 'oh, school sucked boo hoo'. No. It's a case of school, private, public, what-have-you, can be damaging emotionally, mentally, physically, or even sexually.

Now, I was bullied quite a bit, and as a result, I am emotionally unstable and have clinical depression, both of which I need to work on greatly. I do not EVER want that to happen to my child.

Kids are bullied every fucking day. Is that a problem? Fuck yes, one that isn't getting solved in the slightest. Kids get picked on for things that are either entirely out of their control, or for what they/'re wearing, how they choose to do make-up or do their hair. In my case, some of my bullying was caused by the fact that I'm related to my brother, which may not have been his fault, but because of it I resent him.
Emotional damage is not something to take lightly because it could lead to mental and physical abuse that is self-inflicted. It could lead to suicide.
Do you even realize how many excuses parents come up with to get their shitty kid out of trouble after the kid bullied someone? I get it, ok. No parent wants to believe their kid is the problem, so they try to place the blame on someone else. But there is no excuse for the way you're influencing your child. The more you save him/her from shit like that, you're basically showing them that no matter what they do you will try really hard to bail them out despite the pain they've caused other people. How can you not see how shitty that is? You want to protect your kid, right? What about the parents who couldn't protect their kids because of yours?
A girl was getting harassed by boys in her school because of her breast size and the fucking school told her to get a breast reduction. How can that possibly be ok?

Mental and emotional damage walk hand in hand because they're connected. Sometimes mental damage becomes more severe though, and this can create a psychopath or a serial killer or mass murderer. Someone who causes the school shootings that are happening erratically these days.
I was watching Dr. Phil last night and it was about how this guy goes into the school, the little girl doesn't know him/recognize him, and he had fucking taken the time to learn her name, and whatnot and goes in there and signs her out and takes her. The ONLY reason she went with him at all, is because he lied and said her mother was outside waiting for them. She refuses to talk about what happened within the 5 hours he had her before police found them. 
That's not the only fucking time someone has kidnapped that way, either. It's fucking appalling. If I ever did send my kid to ANY school, I'd give them explicit instructions on what to do if someone of my kid doesn't recognize comes to pick them up. 
  1. Ask my child if they know/recognize the person
  2. Whether they do or do not, ask the stranger for an I.D
  3. If they don't give you one, or even if they do, I demand a fucking phone call asking me if that person is there with my permission.
It is so irresponsible that a lot of schools don't take precaution for that. Do you fucking realize how traumatizing that is for a kid to go through?

This is Nailla Robinson. Nailla stands about 40 inches tall and weighs around 35 pounds. She has a medium skin tone, brown eyes and black curly hair.

A woman entered the school and told school officials her name was “Tiffany,” and that she needed to take her daughter to breakfast. The woman then allegedly signed Nailla out of the office and took her away at approximately 8:50 AM on January 14, 2013. The woman was dressed in a traditional Muslim over-garment and Niqab. She has her face covered and only her eyes showing. She’s wearing gloves. She’s wearing all black. She has something white on her arm and she has a long black umbrella. The surveillance camera shows them walking through the hallway to get to the door. The next camera picks up and she’s putting her umbrella up.

This may not seem like a problem, but hey, that wasn't her mother that took her. This little girl was abducted from a west Philadelphia school. Luckily, she was found safe in Delaware County.

"An Amber Alert was issued Monday night about 12 hours after Philadelphia Police say a kindergartner went missing after being abducted from her Cobbs Creek school.
Police say the 5-year-old went missing around 8:50 a.m. from the Cullen Bryant Elementary School on 60th and Cedar Avenue.
"Where is she, where could she be?" begged the girl's tearful mother Latifah Abdur-Rashid.
The victim, a kindergartner at the school, was allegedly taken by a woman who claimed to be her mother. Police also say people didn't realize the girl was missing until almost six hours later.
She stands about 40 inches tall and weighs around 35 pounds. She has a medium skin tone, brown eyes and black curly hair, according to investigators.
The family just moved to the area so the girl doesn't know her address or phone number, her mother said.
Her family told NBC10's Denise Nakano that a woman, believed to be about 8-months pregnant, was spotted on surveillance video telling school officials her name was "Tiffany," and that she needed to take her daughter to breakfast. The woman then allegedly signed the little girl out of the office and took her away.
"She’s a beautiful little girl, happy go lucky, not a care in the world," said Abdur-Rashid. "For someone to take her like that is really horrendous."
Her mother was in tears as she told NBC10 about finding out her daughter was missing.
"My daycare called me," said Abdur-Rashid. "(They) pick my child up, her and my son, and walked them to the daycare from the school around 3 o'clock. They asked me if Nailla had an early dismissal today. And, of course I said, 'no, she didn't.' She asked me about a woman named Tiffany and I immediately thought about my brother's friend. I called her and she was like, 'no, I'm in school. I didn't take [her].'"Police+released+this+surveillance+image+of+the+abduction+of+Nailla+Robinson%2C+5%2C+from+the+Cullen+Bryant+Elementary+School+on+60th+and+Cedar+Avenue+on+Jan.+14%2C+2013.
Abdur-Rashid says there was confusion when she came to the school asking questions.
"I come straight to the school and they're all discombobulated. The substitute teacher, they're trying to get him on the phone. He finally gets here and he's like, 'her mom picked her up from school early. She said she was taking her to breakfast. I asked her to sign out but she said she already signed out at the office.'"
Abdur-Rashid also says the woman who abducted her daughter was dressed in traditional Muslim clothing -- something verified by police and surveillance video.
"In the surveillance camera that the school has that I watched, she's dressed in traditional over-garment and Niqab," said Abdur-Rashid. "She has her face covered and only her eyes showing. She's wearing gloves. She's wearing all black. She has something white on her arm and she has a long black umbrella. The surveillance camera shows them walking through the hallway to get to the door. The next camera picks up and she's putting her umbrella up. Then they disappear."
The victim, who had on a light-colored coat and pink backpack, and the woman were last seen walking along Cedar Avenue.
The Philadelphia School District confirmed Abdur-Rashid's story and told NBC10 the following: 
Around 8:45 a.m. this morning a woman showed up at the school and was allowed to visit the child in the classroom, which is against protocol. The woman claimed to be the mother and took the child from the school. When the real mother showed up at 2:45 p.m., that is when they realized that the child was missing. There is surveillance video that shows the woman and child leaving. That is being handed over to Philadelphia Police.
An Amber Alert was issued around 8:30 p.m. A $10,000 reward is offered for information in this case.
The girl's mother just wants her daughter home safe.
"Please, please take my baby anywhere that she can be picked up," said Abdur-Rashid. "I don’t know what else to say... don’t hurt my baby.""
Fortunately, she was found over-night and brought back safe and sound. I can not imagine what I'd do if that happened to my child. I can't imagine how all the parents who have had to go through this or just abductions in general have felt. The fact that this seems just so easy is horrifying. That could probably happen to anyone's child if the school they're attending doesn't take the right precautions in making sure that the person trying to sign out said child isn't lying about who they are. 
And you wouldn't even know everything that happens between the child and the abductor unless the child tells you. And that's if they don't repress what happened and refuse to talk about it. This is serious stuff and I gotta say, at this point I'm pretty cynical when it comes to trusting schools.
One time in gym, kids were playing basketball and decided they'd try to throw the balls at my head to see who could actually hit me. This dumb cunt actually does hit me and as I'm walking to the nurse, crying, she's laughing and bragging to her moronic friends.
This other girl and several of her friends would throw random shit at me. This science teacher I had 'jokingly' hit me in the ribs while she was walking by and it actually did hurt. This shit isn't funny, if you do that, you're a piece of shit. It's one thing to hate someone or even just dis-like them, but it's another thing entirely to take it too far to the point where you physically hurting them for whatever reason. That's just pathetic. 
Kids in all kinds of school all over the world get attacked by kids who are picking on them, or have things thrown at them, or have people hit them. It's horrible and traumatizing and they should not have to go through that. 
This is a huge problem. Lots of kids or even teens get manipulated by teachers and then touched inappropriately or worse. The teachers threaten to fail them or possibly worse if they don't comply and keep their mouths shut. By the time most parents learn of this, it's too late. Or maybe they'll never learn about if it their child takes their own life.
What the actual fuck is wrong with people?

A football coach at a high school or college is trying his fucking hardest to get his players out of trouble after they RAPED AN INTOXICATED GIRL MULTIPLE TIMES IN  ONE NIGHT. 
This country loves football more than its own daughters
I want you all to think long and hard about that.
This brings up another point. Teachers can just be abusive in general. They take up teaching thinking it'll be easy. They have power over the kids they teach and thus, they take advantage of it, insulting the kids, provoking them, teasing them, just bullying them.

"When Stuart Chaifetz learned that his 10-year-old son, Akian, was being violent and disruptive in class, he was puzzled. He knew Akian, who has autism, to be mild-mannered and sensitive, and had a hunch that something more was going on. But after several meetings with a team of school officials created to help special-needs students, nothing changed. So Chaifetz did what any concerned parent would do.
On the morning of Friday, February 17, 2012, I wired my son and sent him to school. That night, when I listened to the audio my life changed forever. I heard my son being bullied by his teacher and aide. The six and a half hours of audio I had proved that my son wasn’t hitting the teacher because there was something wrong with him — he was lashing out because he was being mocked, mistreated and humiliated. His outbursts were his way of expressing that he was being emotionally hurt at school.
The New Jersey father has since launched a website full of damning evidence and a Facebook page, and he is petitioning the state to change legislation so that teachers who bully children are immediately fired. The aide has been fired, but the rest of the staff have merely been relocated.
“I seek a full and public apology from all those adults who were in my son’s class for what they did to him,” Chaifetz says. “It is also far past time that these issues are allowed to be hidden from public view.”"

Sometimes, kids even bully the teachers, or the teaching Aids:

Parents should have serious talks with their kids about their behavior, and if your kid is lying about whether or not they bully someone, don't give in and give them the benefit of the doubt or they'll always do that in order to get away with it. Teachers should be evaluated to make sure they're emotionally/mentally stable enough to be working around kids, and schools need to make sure they're not taking the job just because they think it's easy and because they want to control people.
If you feel like your child is having trouble at school, sit them down and talk to them and let them know you're there. I cannot tell you how alone I felt growing up, thinking the world hated me because kids I went to school with made me feel worthless. When I was 10 years old I decided I wanted to kill myself because I felt like the world would benefit from it. No 10 year old should EVER have to feel like that. Nobody of any age should EVER have to feel like that.
Everyone needs someone sometimes.

And now, various things people on tumblr have said about school!:
"I don’t hate school because “i’m a teenager” no i hate it because who the fuck wants to wake up at 6 in the morning and go to a place where all you feel is stupid and judged. yeah no one ok"
"Things school has taught me:
• Grades are more important than your morals,emotional & physical health
• How to hate people in general
• To want to quit life weekly
• How to text/eat in class without getting caught
• Why I will never amount to anything"

"The problem with school is that it’s forced.
I’m thirsty for knowledge when I have the freedom to seek it myself." 
"what i've learned on tumblr: Self defense techniques, art appreciation, dealing with basic life situations, politics, the economy, biology facts, to be open-minded and accepting of everyone no matter the shape, form, gender, race, sexuality, religion, social status, SPECIES. the difference between grey and gray, the effect one simple little word can have on people both good or bad, how to deal with depression, anxiety and suicidal feelings, some of the different theories of our existence, WHAT TO DO IF I GET BURIED ALIVE
what i've learned in school: using a calculator to find a side of a triangle"

 "Male privilege is oversexualizing a normal part of a woman’s body to the point where she is punished for wearing a pair of shorts at school. They are legs and they get me where I need to go. I don’t “display” them for your enjoyment, I just made a mistake by assuming that partially exposing an appropriate part of my body on an 80 degree day wouldn’t land me in detention."

"the fact that i have to choose between my grades and my own mental and physical health is really fucked up"
That's something that bothers me, that if you miss a certain amount of school days you have to stay back and shit. What the actual hell? My life should not have to be scheduled around school, especially because people's immune systems and getting sick don't work like that. I don't know about your school, but that's how it was at mine and that's fucking horrible. Someone could literally feel way to sick to do jack shit but if they already missed a certain amount of school they just have to suffer and go anyway. Fuck that.
 'im stressed because i don’t want to be a nurse or a teacher or a lawyer i just want to read books and listen to music and travel and drink coffee but there’s so much pressure to become successful in terms of money and my career and i don’t want to do any of that'
May not look like it, but that's pretty relevant.
"Tumblr has taught me more about feminism, women rights, rape culture, slut shaming, etc, more than school ever had. And there is something wrong with that."
school: make time for your interests and hobbies!
school: oh btw we're going to keep you here for about 6 1/2 hours. and after that, we're going to give you hours of homework.
school: eat 3 meals a day!
school: you don't have time for breakfast if you want to get here on time, though. and here's lunch, it's cardboard.
school: school is free!
school: oh, but you have to pay for any ap classes, textbooks, folders, supplies, and materials for projects :)
school: you earn the grades you get!
school: what do you mean this teacher gives you bad grades because they don't like you? that's ridiculous!
school: respect your teachers.
school: oh, but they don't have to respect you. even if you don't know the answer they can still call you out in front of the whole class. and don't forget, if you correct them, we'll lower your grade.
school: everyone is an individual!
school: here's a standardized test to figure out how smart you all are.
school: balance your social life and academics.
school: but you also have to do homework and study for the rest of the day.
school: we accept all love!
school: stop kissing and hugging eachother. that's gross.
school: bullying is bad!
school: but our teachers won't help you if you don't say anything.
school: it's okay to be out sick.
school: but the teacher won't explain it to you if you were. that's /your/ fault that you were sick.
school: act like adults.
school: but we're going to treat you like children. 

It bothers me that the intelligence of animals is measured by how willing they are to obey the commands of a human.
same goes for students at schools... there is a difference between people who are smart and people who get good grades

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